Qiao Simei is undoubtedly selfish.

Because of Qiao Yicheng's talent, she has this big brother to take care of everything. She can be herself and do whatever she wants, but at the same time, her willfulness has caused all problems.No bottom line.“

In my opinion, Qiao Simei's bottomless request for help from her relatives again and again is a different kind of evil.”

It is precisely because family love is constantly cut and messed up, and even if the bones are broken and the tendons are broken, they cannot be separated no matter what.

Qiao Yicheng, on the other hand, had spent his whole life worrying about his sister and was not even qualified to live a good life for himself.

In fact, if you can understand Qiao Simei's free and easy attitude and her emotional selfishness, you will also understand the worst part of family relationships.

Puppy love, star chasing, rebellion

Others start their relationship with appearance, focus on talent, and be loyal to character, but Qiao Simei has been running wildly on the road of starting with appearance, and even got herself into deep trouble.

Qiao Simei fell in love early when she was fourteen years old.

At this age, he is entering junior high school, which is also the most rebellious age.

When Qiao Simei was in her teens, she began to fall in love with others and pursue celebrities. For these reasons, not only was she punished by the school, but she almost didn't even get a diploma after graduating from junior high school.

As the person in charge of the family, Qiao Yicheng was already extremely tolerant towards the little sister Qiao Simei.

At the most rebellious moment, Qiao Simei decided to run all the way from Nanjing to Beijing to chase stars and watch a concert, which almost made Qiao Yicheng so angry that his head was smoking.

The original work reads:

Qiao Yicheng sighed and decided in his heart to buy a train ticket and rush to Beijing immediately.It was a day and night train ride, and I had to take two days off from school, plus a Sunday, hoping that I would have enough time to find Simei and bring her back.

Just when he was about to set off, he heard a piece of social news, saying that there was a girl in Beijing who committed suicide by lying on the train because her courtship to Fei Xiang was politely rejected. It was said that this girl had traveled all the way to Beijing to find her.Fei Xiang’s.

Qiao Yicheng's legs felt weak and he almost fell to the ground in the classroom.It took me a long time to get my mind around it, and I made a long phone call to ask my old classmates in Beijing to find out where the girl mentioned in the news was from and what her name was. At the same time, I ran to the train station to exchange my ticket for the earliest one.I didn’t even have time to pick up my luggage before I got my ticket to Beijing.

I didn’t even have a toothbrush along the way. When I got off the train, I almost fell into disarray. I could smell my own stench. I hid in the train station toilet and washed two of them with cold water in front of the blurry mirror before leaving the station.Fortunately, an old classmate picked him up.

As the eldest brother in the family, Qiao Yicheng seems to be used to Qiao Simei's nonsense, and is even more used to the farce at home, and is used to cleaning up these messes.

It was Qiao Yicheng's repeated protection and unconditional help that shaped Qiao Simei's fearless character.

Especially when her eldest brother sent her all the way to Beijing to look for someone this time, Qiao Simei became even more convinced of one thing:

Broken bones and connected tendons, she is her elder brother's relative, and she is an existence he cherishes. With him in charge, she is not afraid of anything.As the youngest person in the family, the other brothers and sisters also have to help her and pay for her unconditionally.

However, such a cruel realization is so sad for Qiao Yicheng!

In the eyes of others, as the eldest brother, it may be Qiao Yicheng's responsibility to take care of these sisters in the family, but only Qiao Yicheng himself knows that it is these helpless responsibilities that make his life so full of layers.The shackles prevented him from rebirth.

The Laughing Marriage of Killing It First and Telling It Later“

Among the children of the Qiao family, except Qiao Simei, the other brothers and sisters all have their own responsibilities to shoulder and their own bottom lines to follow.

Although Qiao Erqiang was naughty and couldn't find his own direction in the early stage, with Ma Suqin's care in the later stage, he naturally went almost anywhere; Qiao Sanli has been the most sensible girl in the family since she was a child. Even after getting married, she still has her own ideas;Even Qiao Qiqi is taken care of by Qi Weimin, so Qiao Yicheng basically doesn't need to worry about it. Only such a Qiao Simei can often make Qiao Yicheng jump with anger and make him worry endlessly.

When Qiao Simei decided to travel all the way from Nanjing to Lhasa, Qiao Yicheng was once again so angry that the white hair on his head popped out.

Qiao Yicheng was puzzled by Qiao Simei's mindless decision.

Being aggressive is a good thing, but when it comes to Qiao Simei, this is simply a mistake.

Qi Chenggang, who appeared out of nowhere, had already exhausted Qiao Yicheng's favor in this matter.

In the original work, Qiao Simei even married Qi Chenggang in the army, and they had a solid relationship.

In Qiao Simei's view, this kind of thing is an honor, a symbol of her daring to love and hate, and her courage to pursue herself and love in life. But in Qiao Yicheng's view, this is the beginning of her confusion.

Facts have proved that Qiao Simei's vision of people is very problematic.

I just glanced at someone in the crowd, and I didn’t even know whether I knew it or not. Just for that one glance, I ran over to him with wishful thinking. Even if I regret it in the future, it will be very difficult.

For Qi Chenggang, Qiao Simei almost spent half of her life involved.

The first time he cheated, Qiao Simei didn't know about it because he was far away in Nanjing; the second time he cheated, Qiao Simei chose to forgive because of the child; the third time he cheated, completely put Qiao Simei and the entire Qiao family into a quagmire.

” relatives who trampled themselves and their families into the mud“

In the original work, Qi Chenggang had cheated on his wife three times.

However, the last time, Qiao Simei actually begged in front of Xiang Nanfang. For Qi Chenggang, she did not hesitate to kneel down to beg for help, but that kneeling also severely stepped all Qiao Yicheng's self-esteem into the mud.

Qiao Yicheng is the eldest brother in the family and her relative, but at the same time, he is also himself.

Qiao Simei is undoubtedly selfish in doing so.

It is impossible for anyone to live their whole life for another person.

Qiao Yicheng has always been eager to get rid of this situation, but is his unwillingness to get rid of it really just because of his thoughts and concerns?

In fact, it's much more than that.

Over the years, taking care of these younger brothers and sisters in the family has almost become the inherent responsibility of Qiao Yicheng, the eldest brother. But if you think carefully, taking care of them and always helping them, is it really his responsibility?

Not really.

It's just a habitual thing, a habitual and helpless burden. Carrying these responsibilities on the shoulders has never been decided by others.

In fact, Qiao Simei has always been the kind of woman who relies entirely on her husband after getting married.”

In the heart of such a person, she always thinks that she needs others to pay for her, rather than her paying for others, even when it comes to relatives.

Qiao Sanli scolded her for why she couldn't wake up. It wasn't that she couldn't wake up, she just didn't want to wake up.

As a sister, she has always been the spoiled child in the family. As a wife, she has been paying for Qi Chenggang, an unreliable husband, but as a relative, she has never been willing to pay.

Because she knew that someone could help her and that she had invisible support behind her, she was so carefree.

Some malicious intentions are invisible and the best at hiding them.

Confusion and clarity, only in a moment

Qiao Simei is not ungrateful.

It's just that with Qiao Yicheng as her eldest brother, she has the capital to spend her whole life.

With such a relative to take care of everything, Qiao Simei's life was not unhappy.

In the original work, Qiao Simei even clearly talked about the disadvantages of others introducing this marriage to her brothers and sisters:

Let me tell you, marrying a rich man is like robbing a bank. The money comes quickly, but the consequences are endless.What's wrong with being like this person now?My daughter is raised by the state. I save some money every year and go out for a trip. Seeing the mountains and rivers is much better than looking at a man all day long.

It can be seen that Qiao Simei is not a confused person.

Even at work, Qiao Simei is the one who is the most proactive and the fastest promoted. Even such a business-minded thing as opening a bookstore was financed by her, but she met a person like Qi Chenggang.

Except emotionally, she has been acting foolishly and following her own temper.

In the original work, Qiao Yicheng saw that this sister finally looked back, sobered up, and finally let go of her heart and was willing to live a good life for herself.

But is this really the best ending?

In my opinion, the author just gave an ending that was a coincidence.

In reality, how many women stay in such a marriage and never look back, requiring others to worry about her for the rest of their lives?

She just knew that she had the capital to squander it, and that there was someone who could tell the truth to help her.

Some malice is invisible and the best at hiding it. In the eyes of others, it is family affection and the existence of longing, but only you know the pain in it.

Not all love in the world is selfless, even selfless people like Qiao Yicheng always long to get rid of this situation.

It's just that he has been powerless in the face of the current situation and has habitually assumed the role of his big brother.

Qiao Simei worked hard for half a life, and finally got what she wanted and lived the life she wanted to live, but Qiao Yichengqiao never had such capital.

There is always evil in some family relationships.

It's just that sometimes love comes from one's own, and you end up being blindfolded for the rest of your life.

When I really wanted to open my eyes and take a look, I realized that I couldn't help myself.